Videos | Melissa Harris Perry & Company: President Obama’s Playing “Daddy” Politics

Is it any wonder folks are going nuts about President Obama’s visit to Chi-town last Friday to address gun violence and the economy.

Here’s Chris Rock’s idea of what this president and First Lady represents to him and our country.


Saturday, February 16, 2013 MHP-VALERIE JARRETT INTERVIEW

How can a father not be an influence to his children? Folks can’t have it both ways. On one hand, they want equal opportunity, a fair shake in America, good education, healthcare, jobs, on the other hand, they don’t want to take responsibility for ensuring they and their children get their fair share. We can’t keep screaming against society’s racism and inequalities, and not face the realities and lessons of how those who became successful achieved it.

What is the matter with this picture, when asking fathers & mothers to take care of their children is seen as a mockery to achieving educational and economic success, and a call to band together as a community, love, nurture, and support each other? Our fathers need jobs, education, not guns, drugs, and prison.

It’s like these folks thrive on blacks being disconnected from society, always having to beg, scrimp, and ask for handouts from MASSA. Of course there’s institutionalized racism, and one way to combat that is FAMILY UNITY. All families aren’t healthy; there is abuse, poverty, drugs, etc., these are symptoms of a larger issue. Even single parent households can thrive, but to discount the roles of two parents is detrimental.

SG2 here:

This is what gets me. On one side of her face Melissa was cheering the Potus on for same sex marriage & all of its benefits but the other she was belittling him for advocating marriage to African Americans. I mean really! Is advocating marriage for African Americans a “bad” thing? Have we not been saying the same thing? But when the Potus advocates, it’s foul! And how insulting to mock him for wanting his father around while he was growing up. It’s his life. How dare any of us to have a problem with that! To say having Moms and Dads in a child’s life is a right wing talking point is asinine to the 10th power. What is wrong with these educated negroes with this foolishness?

rikyrah here:

I get tired of educated fools.

WHAT THE HELL did the President say that was ‘ controversial’?

I have to know.

The Black community is in trouble. WHO could argue otherwise?

I don’t minimize the economics of the situation of our community. But, here’s the thing, Black folks have always been on the lower rung of the economic ladder. What we have not been, traditionally, is lacking morals and values.

The President of the United States grew up without his father. Yes, he had a loving set of grandparents, but, from his own mouth – HE MISSED HAVING HIS FATHER IN HIS LIFE.

How are you going to dispute what came out of his own mouth. How are you going to minimize his life’s experience? He lived it. He owns that he lived it.

here’s what the President said:

“As the son of a single mom who gave everything she had to raise me, with the help of my grandparents, I turned out OK,” he said, calling single moms “heroic” and worthy of praise.

But he added, “At the same time, I wish I’d had a father who was around and involved.”

The president said there are neighborhoods all over the country where young people don’t see adults succeeding and where they come to think the future “only extends to the end of the street corner or the outskirts of town.”

Young boys and young men, in particular, “don’t see an example of fathers or grandfathers, uncles, who are in a position to support families and be held up and respected,” Obama continued. Yet the biggest factor in determining a child’s success — and preventing a child from sliding into a life of crime — is having a “loving, supportive family,” he said.

“And by the way, that’s all kinds of parents. That includes foster parents, that includes grandparents, extended families. That includes gay or straight parents,” Obama added to applause. “Those parents supporting kids, that’s the single most important thing. Unconditional love for your child, that makes a difference.”


It was disappointing to see MHP blatantly distort what POTUS said and insulting and disrespectful for her to reduce his words to him having “daddy issues.” Has a President ever been insulted so much? Even by so-called liberals? Where are they in holding the GOP accountable for obstructing bills and changes POTUS wants that would improve the lives of millions of Americans?

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65 Responses to Videos | Melissa Harris Perry & Company: President Obama’s Playing “Daddy” Politics

  1. Ametia says:

    And Ebony writer joins the club. You can’t be thrown under the bus, unless you lay your black ass down under the treads.

    Mr. President,
    Stop Throwing Black People Under the Bus

    Almost as soon as he began to talk, I found myself deeply incensed at President Obama’s address in Chicago this past Friday. I hoped, along with the 50,000 folks who petitioned for this speech after Hadiya Pendleton’s murder, that the president would offer both empathy and solutions to a community shell-shocked by massive violence.

    Instead when the president began by suggesting that we need to “do more to promote marriage and encourage fatherhood,” I started shaking my head. Rather than empathizing with those Black families that have been destroyed by violence, he blamed the prevalence of non-nuclear Black families for contributing to it! Recycling this tired narrative about broken families and absentee Black fathers does nothing to address the steady flow of guns into our communities, nor the pathologies that lead young people to fire them.

    Yes, I think we can all agree with Obama that “for a lot of young boys and young men, in particular, they don’t see an example of fathers or grandfathers, uncles, who are in a position to support families and be held up and respected.” But as David Leonard has shown, just because nearly 70% of children are born to unmarried parents, this does not mean that 70% of Black children don’t have active fathers.

    Ummmm; isnt’ the POTUS addressing gun violence on the federal level and asking folks on the local to do their part? I loathe these negroes, really I do!

  2. rikyrah says:


    Just struck me that some of this MHP brouhaha may be about the PL’s ongoing unhappiness that the black community as a whole is not as socially liberal as they would prefer. MHP et al seem surprised that when they (falsely) accused President Obama of targeting single mothers, a good portion of black Obots said “good!” They ascribe this to blind faith in PBO but in fact a portion of the black community is socially conservative and has been for years and years.

    I’ve thought for some time that the PL thinks that black people as a whole have cosigned the thinking and prerogatives of the liberals (incl. myself) who are part of PBO’s coalition, and they’re totally incorrect about that. IMO the pomposity and tin ear of the PL obscures that reality.

  3. rikyrah says:

    the other part that was disturbing about the MHP clips was her snide derision of Valerie Jarrett and dismissal of what Jarrett said… like Valerie was lying about how she grew up. I grew up in a community, a BLACK community, where folks looked out for me. Couldn’t do wrong, because by the time I got home, Mama and DADDY had heard from half a dozen neighbors about what I had done wrong. yes…a BLACK community, looking out for me.

    • No kidding, Rikyrah! It was the same way in my neck of the woods. Everyone looked out for one another. Some disciplined you and then called your parents to tell them they disciplined you. They meant business.

    • Ametia says:

      Yes; the look on MHP’s face and body language was INCREDULOUS!

      It was like she wanted Valerie Jarrett to tell her that PBO would roam the country and shower the black poverty-stricken communities with DOLLAR BILLS/ MAKING RAIN! Like some Welfare powerful pimp

  4. rikyrah says:

    Does President Obama have “Daddy Issues?”

    On February 15, 2013, President Obama traveled to his home of Chicago to speak on “strengthening the economy of the middle class.” Despite the official title provided by the White House, the media billed this as a “speech on poverty and gun violence,” perhaps because it is the topic du jour or perhaps because Hadiya Pendleton, the young woman who was killed as a result of gun violence not long after performing at President Obama’s Inauguration, was from Chicago.

    The video of President Obama’s speech can be seen here. The nearly thirty-minute speech touched on a myriad of issues including gun violence, growing our economy, education, and stabilizing our communities. I watched the speech live and viewed Twitter reactions as it was happening. Melissa Harris-Perry, whose show can be seen on weekend mornings on MSNBC, tweeted this:

    Sigh…the fatherhood thing is distressing for me President Obama. I know you don’t mean to say single moms cause gun violence, but…

    This tweet seemed to come right after the President said,

    There’s no more important ingredient for success, nothing that would be more important for us reducing violence than strong, stable families — which means we should do more to promote marriage and encourage fatherhood.

    There seemed to be a disconnect in my mind, and the minds of many on Twitter, between what the President said and what Harris-Perry heard. Was the President, a product of a single mom himself, saying that “single moms cause gun violence?” That seems hard to believe, especially since he continued by saying:

    Don’t get me wrong — as the son of a single mom, who gave everything she had to raise me with the help of my grandparents, I turned out okay. But — no, no, but I think it’s — so we’ve got single moms out here, they’re heroic in what they’re doing and we are so proud of them. But at the same time, I wish I had had a father who was around and involved. Loving, supportive parents — and, by the way, that’s all kinds of parents — that includes foster parents, and that includes grandparents, and extended families; it includes gay or straight parents.

    Not surprisingly, Harris-Perry’s Twitter Mentions erupted with the tweets of many who were as confused as I was about her interpretation of what the President said. She later said on Twitter that she had been “vilified:”

    So if I have a critique of even one element of the President’s speech than I should be vilified? Interesting.

    Now the President’s speech about the economy was somehow about Harris-Perry. Interesting indeed. Not only do I have a problem with what Harris-Perry said, I have a problem with when she said it. She did not even wait until the speech was over before critiquing it. Instead, it seemed that Harris-Perry had a knee-jerk reaction and was projecting her own former circumstances on those the President was discussing. Harris-Perry has been open about her divorce, the five-year period when she was a single mom to her daughter, and her subsequent marriage. It is well known that certain events or words will trigger issues for people. It seems that happened here. Once those triggers are activated, it is hard to keep listening to anything else that has been said or even stay in the moment. When you set your mind to what you expect to hear and bring along personal baggage that perhaps has not been resolved, misunderstandings and misinterpretations can occur.

    President Obama’s speech was not about marriage. In fact, he only said the word “marriage” twice in his speech: once that I have quoted above, and the second time here:

    So we should encourage marriage by removing the financial disincentives for couples who love one another but may find it financially disadvantageous if they get married. We should reform our child support laws to get more men working and engaged with their children.

    That’s it. How did this somehow become a speech about “blaming” and “shaming” single moms, the ones he just called heroes, as was said on the Melissa Harris-Perry show today? When did President Obama do that? Just as important, *why* would he do that and, by association, blame and shame his own mother? On the contrary, it seems that he was blaming and shaming his absent father, if anyone, and encouraging other men to fulfill their duties as fathers and father figures. Since when is promoting fatherhood mutually exclusive from demanding social change about the prison system and ending the war on drugs?

    Harris-Perry attempted to say on her show today that, due to the character limits of Twitter, she was unable to fully express her thought about President Obama saying “single moms cause gun violence.” But she is no Twitter novice. She is well aware that if you are going to say something as incendiary as her comment, it makes sense to complete the thought at that time, lest you be misconstrued. It definitely makes more sense to do it then rather than two days later on your television program.

    On her show today, Harris-Perry conflated the position Mitt Romney took during the Town Hall Presidential Debate in 2012 about marriage being important before having children with the President saying that we need to remove the impediments to marriage for those who “may find it financially disadvantageous if they get married.” Are these issues the same thing? Why are we comparing President Obama and Mitt Romney at all? Their backgrounds certainly are not similar.

    The Melissa Harris-Perry Show has done a good job of consistently presenting opposing viewpoints with respect to various issues. There is often a Republican or a conservative on her panels in an attempt to balance what many see as liberal-leaning viewpoints. But that was not the case today. All five of her panelists regarding this issue seemed to be wholeheartedly agreeing with her, after she felt “vilified” for expressing her opinion on Twitter. One definitely had the sense that there was a Sunday “Amen Corner” on her show, stacked with guests who either agreed with her or were not interested in disagreeing with her stance. None challenged either her tweet or her overall position that President Obama was blaming single moms for gun violence.

    Harris-Perry entitled the first segment of her show regarding this issue: “The Problem with Daddy Politics” and made specific mention of President Obama having “Daddy Issues.” This phrasing seemed unnecessarily emasculating of the President, a Black man, who has apparently struggled for decades with not having a father present in his life. But it is also concerning because Harris-Perry has had young men of color on her show to discuss issues affecting them and their community. Would she say they had “Daddy Issues” too if they were being raised by single moms?

    President Obama has been criticized for being too aloof, too impersonal. What I saw on Friday was the President of the United States, the leader of the free world, being open and vulnerable about the lack of a father figure. How often do we hear Black men, especially those who may be role models for others, saying that they wish they had a father in their life? Anyone looking at President Obama would think that he has it going on pretty well, and understandably so. Look where he sits. So for him to acknowledge that, despite his success, there is a hole in his life that can never be filled, is important. The President specifically said that he reached out to young Chicago male youth: “these guys are no different than me, and we had that conversation about what does it take to change.” The President was speaking directly to these young men, some of whom may look up to him, and yet Harris-Perry said on her show that President Obama was doing a “Bill Cosby impression.” How condescending. Instead, why couldn’t President Obama have been speaking his heart, identifying with many of the young people in the audience?

    Many have spoken out about the President’s supposed lack of focus on issues affecting communities of color. People begged for him to come to Chicago, his home, to speak about the poverty and gun violence affecting their city. While President Obama chose this venue, it was the media and Melissa Harris-Perry, not the White House, who billed this as a speech about poverty and gun violence. But even as the President opened up publicly regarding some deeply personal issues, it was still not enough for some. Some on the Melissa Harris-Perry show even question whether he is the right persons to “criticize single parent households,” as another of her segments was entitled. It is just not clear to me what more President Obama is supposed to do. He speaks on the issues that are demanded, but is then ridiculed for his “Daddy issues.” It seems that nothing he does will ever be enough for some.!/2013/02/does-president-obama-have-daddy-issues.html

    • Ametia says:

      Great recap of what we’ve been sharing here. MHP does not get a break for Twitter excuse. She has researchers do their job for her show. She breaks things down for folks with her little pointer. She needs to pause and think about what she shares on the air.

      Nobody’s stopping her from speaking, but words MATTER. She made this personal, and without any merit. And we will not let her slide for this bullshit. You speak it, we get to critique it too, just like you did with PBO.

  5. RiPPa says:

    I see y’all went in! Yep, and this is a good thing. Carry on ever so smartly as y’all sisters are known to, and always do!!

  6. Ametia says:


    Robert Scates (right) is one of the students in the BAM mentorship program who met privately with President Barack Obama Friday before the president gave a speech at Hyde Park Academy. Scates said speaking with the president “sparked a change” in him.
    (DNAinfo/Quinn Ford)

  7. Ametia says:


    Tyren Thompson, a senior at Hyde Park Academy, and other members of the BAM mentorship program met privately with President Barack Obama before he gave a speech in Hyde Park Friday. Thompson said the president inspired him to “keep pushing.”

    Read more:

  8. rikyrah says:

    sfpelosi ‏@sfpelosi
    Not sure who had more #daddyissues this week – Fitz on @ScandalABC or pundits projecting on President @BarackObama.

  9. rikyrah says:

    From LaTanya Richardson Jackson and Pauletta Washington

    excerpt: But both women put voluntary brakes on their careers after they began having children. Two traveling actors can’t make a stable home, they said.

    “Sam and I had made a pact, since we were both from broken homes, I said I am not going to have a kid that wasn’t raised by two parents,” Richardson Jackson said. “I didn’t care what it took.”

    Without missing a beat, Washington agreed.

    “There’s a lot of talk about the Hollywood families, but that commitment that the two of them made, Denzel and I made the same commitment,” Washington said.

  10. rikyrah says:

    from TOD:

    February 17, 2013 at 12:10 pm
    Pres. Obama spoke in a comprehensive manner about education, jobs, economy, poverty, gun violence, and rebuilding all communities; Melissa Harris Perry insultingly reduced it to “Daddy Issues.” She used her admitted bias as a former single mom to present a false narrative of Pres. Obama’s speech. She used her admitted bias to misrepresent his speech because hey, it’s more fun to mislead an audience than tell them the truth. Pres. Obama spoke about the fact that what makes one a father is the courage it takes to raise a child not make one. Pres. Obama praised single mothers and called them heroic. What Melissa heard was “PRES. OBAMA HATES SINGLE MOTHERS AND HE’S TRYING TO CONTROL THEIR LIVES!!!”

    Pres. Obama spoke about including LGBT, adoptive, single, and two parent families in his policy proposals. What Melissa heard was “PRES. OBAMA THINKS SINGLE MOTHERS ARE TO BLAME FOR GUN VIOLENCE!!!” Melissa did not once tell her audience about Pres. Obama’s plan to improve the lives of 20 communities (the program will expand as it goes on) through healthcare, education, jobs, reducing poverty, reducing gun violence, giving all families support , helping fathers get jobs so they can help alongside mothers in providing for their families. Melissa took his very important speech and warped it in a disgusting manner.

    Melissa has a father for her child yet she seems to begrudge Pres. Obama wanting that for all children whenever possible. When one begins to sound like Cornel West and Tavis Smiley, one should take a step back.

    What Melissa Harris Perry did today is called “Projection.” She didn’t full listen to Pres. Obama’s speech. Instead she heard what she wanted to hear and went off half cocked. Ignorance at its worst.

    • Ametia says:

      Facts? These fools don’t need NO STINKING FACTS!

      These fools know damn well by now that PBO does NOTspeak in soundbites. MHP & Maddow both get into their Professorial moods on their show, but yet won’t take the time to absorb the POTUS’ speech on such a crucial and all encompassing issue.

      “Melissa did not once tell her audience about Pres. Obama’s plan to improve the lives of 20 communities (the program will expand as it goes on) through healthcare, education, jobs, reducing poverty, reducing gun violence, giving all families support , helping fathers get jobs so they can help alongside mothers in providing for their families. Melissa took his very important speech and warped it in a disgusting manner.


  11. rikyrah says:

    February 17, 2013 at 12:04 pm
    My last word on MHOP for today.

    I listened to MHP ‘s segment that she had LAST weekend and today;

    I listened to ALL of PBO’s speech in Hyde Park where he seemed to make the same arguments that MHP herself & her panel (last weekend) had said she wanted him to say about single mums and all other kinds of parents;

    I also received MHP’s tweet on Frid (I follow her) where she stated that PBO had implied that single mums cause gun violence. PBO did not say or imply that. He indicated that among other things, families had a role to play. He just added in his discussion that he wishes he had a father growing up. That is how PBO feels and no one should demand that he feels otherwise. It if PBO’s life and feelings not MHP.

    I responded to MHP’s tweet telling her that she did not REALLY listen to what PBO said and that she should be honest and compare PBO’s speech to what MHP and her panel agreed on LAST weekend.

    The impression I get is that often people listen for what they want to hear and then run quickly and tweet without giving due thought to the whole context. PBO does not often use sound-bites as a speaker and often listening to ALL that he is saying gives clarity. PBO wants us to think.

    One thing MHP overlooked is that a group of young men who the Chicago Suntimes interviewed about gun violence mentioned that they miss having a father in their lives and that this causes them and their friends to act up. some said that they look up to gangs as a way to belong because they feel no one else cares.

    Frankly, I get the feeling that MHP just wants PBO to stop talking about the need for black men to step up more and help out – just like people attacked Mr Bill Cosby years ago. PBO was attacked for this before but I believe this is one of those issues he will not stop talking about because it is personal. He has given this speech on fatherhood multiple times and that is what his Fatherhood Initiative is about. Likewise I expect him to praise single mothers and grand parents because his life is a testament to their devotion and hard work

    Do we really do our community justice if we do not address ALL the core issues that are important for our community to thrive?

    • Ametia says:

      Yes; PBO wants us to THINK. Enough of this old slave-catching mentality, black pundits!
      Get out there in your OWN communites and out of those IVORY TOWERS and make a real difference.

  12. rikyrah says:


    I think “all civility filters are turned off.” Somehow having a black President has allowed all the raving racists a public forum to spout their poison. We know it has always been there but now it’s up front, in your face for all to see.

    The thing that really frosts my buns is the person who says:

    “I’m not racist because_______” (insert which ever piece of BS you chose) then proceeds to deny your reality & life experience by saying you are wrong & should just get over it & move on. They live in total denial because they do not really want to self-examine their own bias & prejudice.

    Even though all this pains me very much, I feel it is a positive thing that all the evil is coming out so we can see it & deal with it. The more we can share & dialogue, even with the haters & deniers, the better chance we have to heal. It’s like draining the puss from a wound. The wound can’t heal till it’s clean.

    IMO, the most powerful thing is the public example set by our President & his family that gives the total lie about the stereotypes of AA’s & their families. This is one reason why PBO & fam receive so much undeserved criticism from both left & right.

    The average, ordinary person who is not a hater but may hold some bias sees this undeserved criticism & sees a good man who works hard for the people, walks his own talk & cares about ALL Americans. This can change a person’s perceptions & world view. That change may be slow but will make us all a better people & a better nation.

    Just my few feeble pesos………

    • Ametia says:

      THIS: ‘IMO, the most powerful thing is the public example set by our President & his family that gives the total lie about the stereotypes of AA’s & their families. This is one reason why PBO & fam receive so much undeserved criticism from both left & right.”

      And might I ADD the righties & lefties, are thinking “We can’t have too many more of these negroes thinking they can achieve this kind of greatness. Like I said, they’re all being exposed.

  13. rikyrah says:


    Nope. But the issue is, if Bill Clinton said what PBO said, Black folks would be throwing their panties at him, scrambling to touch his feet, proclaiming him a prophet for Black folks. PBO says it and you get the Jesse Jeakson, “cut his nuts off” reaction.

    I saw firsthand during my husband’s last major deployment in 2009-2010 how crucial his physical absence weighed on my sons. He had been absent for various reasons before, but as they became older, they became more aware, especially at that point, We went through a tremendous rough patch during that time. When he came back, some of their behaviors ceased almost overnight. Teachers were writing me as if a miracle had happened. All of us had a lightbulb moment. For children, it matters. Even in special needs children.

    And at that time I was a stay at home mom, fully involved…basically on a first name basis with the faculty and staff at their schools. If there was a problem, they could call me and I would be there. But at the end of the day they STRUGGLED with no seeing their dad every day as they had been used to…even if they did not verbalize this pain with their own mouths. This topic is huge in the military community, but applies just as well to the general public.

    I was able to be readily available. But most single moms who, in addition to being a parent, also have to work and handle numerous hats while being stretched thin. It is HARD. period. No one is looking down on single moms…they need SUPPORT. And the fathers of children should be a top priority of their rearing. There is NOTHING disturbing or elitist about that. NOTHING.

    Folks need to stop pretending that a father’s presence does not matter…IT DOES. The absence of, or dysfunction of a parent will play out in some form of our lives, whether as children, or as adults, or even how we react to our future mates and how we want our family structure to exist.

  14. rikyrah says:

    Since I work daily in communities in which absentee parents of all races negatively impact children’s lives, I know POTUS is correct

  15. rikyrah says:

    I didn’t realize it was conservative to say dads and moms should be involved in kids lives. @MHPshow

  16. rikyrah says:

    Sabrina ‏@Charmed86
    @sherylkaye @MHarrisPerry they cheered for equal marriage but have a problem with black people getting married, go figure

    Pretty Foot ‏@PrettyFootWoman
    @naheitzeg @PragObots @GN192 @LadonnaArmour why is marriage a rw talking point if it is anyone but LGBT citizens calling for it/

  17. rikyrah says:


    Totally inoffensive. And spot on.

    I always knew that American history was whitewashed and full of revisionism. POC and their contributions have been slighted, omitted, and disputed, And for the most part we chalked up to white men.

    But I am kinda surprised (though I should not be), that in addition to the GOP, the PL is the main culprit of of revisionism and twisting of THIS president’s words and actions.

    There is not one word nor action he can do without them turning around and hastily chastising him, then take credit for “forcing” him to do something.

    First it was, he must make a speech about Chicago. And when the speech is made, it was not to our satisfaction. It is truly sickening to see such perverse behavior disguised as “concern.”

    It has gotten to the point where they do not want PBO to have his own moral convictions and compass, but yet are always crying for him to show his leadership and be bold. You can’t do both.

    • Ametia says:

      PBO is forcing folks to check their own moral convictions and compass. They just don’t like what they see when they look at their compass.

      He will go down in history as the most TRANSFORMATIVE POTUS.

  18. rikyrah says:


    Last point, then I’ll shut up. It’s huge that a President of the United States sat with a bunch of Chicago teens and told them that point blank period there’s no difference between them and him at their age, he just had a more forgiving environment. This is the point of role models and how much they can help. When you have kids who are told that they kind of aren’t shit, some of whom definitely believe that, and then you have a President of the United States say, “nah, you’re just like me, we just need to hook up a better community for you,” that is so enormous. I wish all of the drama surrounding what is clearly a misrepresentation and misinterpretation of the speech at large wasn’t obscuring that message, because it’s one of the most positive ones that kids can hear.

    • Ametia says:

      Spot on, GN. this should’ve been the message that MHP & nem should have been HIGHLIGHTING. They have the largest platform to communicate this, if they could actually get over themselves.

      See; it’s not really about the greater commnunity of kids, it’s about their own selfishness and petty, pathetic pathos.

  19. rikyrah says:

    The biggest challenge facing you “conscious” brothers and sisters is being so spiritually high, you are no earthly good.

  20. rikyrah says:

    sorry folks, but I’ve been gone most of the afternoon.

    that clip made me madder than a mutha.

    I get mad everytime I think about it.

    I get mad that they dismiss that POTUS actually grew up fatherless.

    I get mad that they dismiss the wonderful job that Toots and Grandpa Stanley did in helping raise Barack, the same way that many grandparents in our community step forward and help their children when they need it.

    I hate that they dismiss that Barack Obama made a decision – that the circle of fatherlessness would END WITH HIM and that his children would not have this happen to them.


    For boys, they are the models by which these boys try to aim for as they grow.

    For girls, they are taught by their father as to what they should DEMAND for themselves as women.

    The President was being honest with these young people….

    what was wrong with that?

    • happyfeet69 says:

      sistha, you have said it all . I have a very small school for little boys for 5ys. our slogan is :OBAMA, OBAMA we are the reason for your season. If mhp cann,t understand what PBO is saying, my boys can. They love his pictures dearly especially when I talk about him being a father and they see him with his girls and giving Michelle a little kiss. The ones who say they don,t want to be married are dam liars. they don’t want to go through the drama of marriage. We have become the most selfish people in the world. Everybody want’s their way,so our children suffer. everybody deisre to have a mother and father. Most of us had to make due with what we had but the desire was always there. Pray for MHP.

      • Ametia says:

        The LOVE bond between a man and woman is the balm that soothes the child, and they know it. Also one of the most unspoken benefits of marriage is when the couple POOLS their resources, they do better economically. Under the law they receive the tax breaks and property benefits.

        The child gets good nutrition, appropriate clothing and gets to atttend a decent school, to receive the education they need to succed in life. It begins at home, a loving home.

    • Ametia says:

      Speak on it, rik.

      THIS: “I get mad that they dismiss the wonderful job that Toots and Grandpa Stanley did in helping raise Barack, the same way that many grandparents in our community step forward and help their children when they need it.”

      They dismiss the elder’s role in the upbringing of our kids. This is some TWISTED shit, right here. Don’t even try to speak about family without including and RESPECTING our elders.

      These MOFOS are being exposed for the self righteous, talking out the side of their neck, bullshit, when it comes to poverty and our communities. They’re part of the PROBLEM, as long as their short-sideness and fake outrage persists, we will never look to their kind to be a part of the SOLUTION.

      • rikyrah says:

        If Toots and Grandpa Stanley can be dismissed, then so can Big Mama and Big Daddy who have long held up our community, stepping up and helping when their children needed it.

        • If Toots and Grandpa Stanley can be dismissed, then so can Big Mama and Big Daddy who have long held up our community, stepping up and helping when their children needed it.

          You better tell it! Don’t get so high that you dismiss Big Mama & Grandpa for what they did! We don’t play THAT!

      • Ametia says:

        HELLO! AWWW SHIT! SG2 done broke out Grandma’s HAND. SHIT.JUST.GOT.REAL.

      • No doubt Toots soothed Potus many nights and eased his hurt as he was growing up longing for his daddy’s love. To mock that is reprehensible!

  21. vitaminlover says:

    Also, he could have whined and blamed everybody for his not having his dad and I am sure it was hard for him but he chose to see the bright side and accept the love given to him by his mom and grandparents. He also obviously made a choice that should he become a husband and father that the curse of fatherlessness in his life stopped with him and he would make sure to be there for First Lady Michelle and the girls. I love him for that!

  22. vitaminlover says:

    Ms. Perry needs to deal with her own daddy issues. She needs to get over herself. Sooooo sorry that Malia and Sasha are being raised in a solid two-parent home with two loving parents who love each other and their daughters with NO drama who also happen to be the most powerful and prolific family in the world!

    • Ametia says:

      LOL Damn, that First Family 2-parent household!

      • vitaminlover says:

        Educated too with standards set for the girls for sure.

      • Ametia says:

        Yes’ it’s called ROLE MODELING. Who better to do that than both parents, who have worked hard, played by the rules, taken their drubs, and kept moving forward to set those high standards?

        Even if kids don’t have both parents who are healthy and balanced, MHP and nem, and go into these neigborhoods and MODEL behaviors they think is appropriate for the poor, helpless negro parents and kids to imitate.

        Oh that’s right, it’s easier to sit behind a desk, and criticize the president, someone who came from a single-parent household, who ascended to the presidency, in spite of his daddy’s absence.

        If you’re going to run your mouth about the state of black poverty, bring something to the table in the way of CONCRETE action, instead of mocking the president. Someone who got down in the trenches in the poorest neighborhoods.

        MHP needs a good ass whooping for mocking Valerie Jarrett, when she brought up community, and what it was like, when our elders looked out for all us. That was insulting to me too, because that’s the kind of commnuity I grew up in.

        We looked out for each other, we helped each other to succeed. For example, if someone needed a loan, we’d get the neighbor who knew finances to help, so we wouldn’t get burned by the loan compaines/banks.

        Why wouldn’t this kind of outreach/support be appropriate today? It definitely saves money, time and trouble of getting burned. It’s the small changes that add up. but folks have got to get organized to advance the larger changes.

        This is what those young boys took away from PBO’s roundtable in Chi-town. It’s the adults that are having problems with any meaningful changes this POTUS is trying to inact.

      • LOL! Wear that switch out!

  23. Ametia says:

    And another thing, when folks get organized in their communities, get on the same page with what they want to see happen in their communities, they are able to make the DEMANDS for these changes for the better.

    All this chatter about “daddy politics” by the educated negroes is a distraction, just chatter to hear themselves speaking.

    Take your BLACK & WHITE asses around the country and help communities ORGANIZE. It’s what Barack Obama did, before he became a US Senator & POTUS.

    See how that works? ACTION, not words. But that would be too much like keeping the status quo, so that you can have something to squawk about and blame the president, instead of helping the very folks who need the help.

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